Can I Design the Funeral Ceremony?

These days, many people wish to make the funeral a special celebration of someone’s life, and the ceremony or service has become much more personalised and individual.

At Resthaven Funerals, our funeral directors have been involved in guiding families through numerous personal remembrances where people want to do things differently, with special meaning to the deceased and to his or her family and friends.

For example, in the days after death leading up to the funeral, family members often choose to have the deceased at home or on a marae. This is popular with both Maori and Pacific Island families, as well as those families who derive great comfort from having their loved one at home.

If family and friends are travelling from overseas for the funeral it may be necessary to delay the service, in which case embalming will be required.

The funeral ceremony is important for family and friends to not only share their sorrow, but is an opportunity to celebrate the life of the person who has passed – to remember the good times, the humorous moments, their favourite music, their unique contributions, and to hear tributes and stories from people of all ages. It is good for children to be involved too, if they have been part of the deceased’s life.

Some of the important elements in designing a funeral service are:

  • Movement – how the casket is brought in and taken out; who will carry it; and whether you want special music, movement, dancing or a guard of honour.
  • Symbols – things that carry meaning and demonstrate what was important to the person who has died, such as flowers from their garden, books and poems, candles, shells, photographs and videos.
  • Music – what music they liked most. This can vary from classical to rock, country to opera, hymns to pop music. There may also be the option of having Powerpoint technology available for the showing of photographs and visual mementoes.

Whether you need to plan a funeral now or wish to prepare for the future, we are happy to provide you with a free funeral information pack which contains material about Resthaven Funerals and the professional services we offer.

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